Yes, the joy. Its like she turns 21 months, and a switch turned on. Sigh.
Most of the time she is still my loveable, pretty laid back, adorable girly toddler. Most of the time. (Sidenote, girly because she loves her bows, but she also really enjoyed helping daddy build & hammer the other day so she’ll probably have her tomboy inclinations just like I did as a kid)
Then there was the other night. She was happily watching Mickey Mouse clubhouse (her new addiction) which kept her from asking to eat every 5 seconds while I got dinner ready. We let the show end, turned it off, she seemingly went to her chair with no issues, she buckles herself in, picks up a piece of ham and throws it on the ground. Hmm. That starts a 20 – 30 minute tirade of crying and tantrum, punctuated with ‘mommy’ sniff ‘mommy’ sniff… We tried asking what was wrong. We tried giving her what she might want. We tried ignoring. Finally – upstairs with a paci & lamby and then back downstairs for more ‘Mi Mouse’ and she ate her plate clean and she was mostly happy again. (We never did find out what was really wrong)
We are thinking we need to set down rules now – she certainly can understand us – so we are going to say no TV before dinner from now on, even if it means I have no peace getting dinner ready. Not sure its what caused it, but I don’t think it helped. And I hate that we resorted to it to get her to calm down but we were DESPERATE at that point.
In the morning, another mini-tantrum when in the booster seat (I have a thought that might be part of the problem, she wants to sit in a chair like us but she isn’t tall enough for our table), but finally after a couple minutes the word ‘cereal’ escaped and we got her some cereal like mommy had and she was happy. I’m happy to give her cereal if she asked, its shredded wheat – I’m happy for a toddler to eat shredded wheat (well its frosted, but still – wheat! fiber! all good).
Last night no issues. This morning I thought we were doing well. Then she found the can of puffs in her diaper bag – and she of course wanted to eat out of the can. I offered her a bowl to pour them in but she refused and I took the can away. (So mean I know – I mean granted the whole can is like 100 calories, but the point is she can’t just have whatever she wants, and she needs to pour out a serving). This lead to me carrying a 28-lb toddler crying to the mini-van and strapping her in. Minnie Mouse, her doll, helped calm her, and she then accepted the bowl of puffs I had poured. Going into school, the bowl flipped, she lost the puffs and since I refused to let her eat off the sidewalk, I had to carry the same 28-lb toddler into daycare screaming for them. She calmed down almost instantly inside the school, but it was quite a morning.
We are having another one? I think now I know why people tell me its the older child that is actually more difficult the 2nd time around.
I love her, and she is a great child. I know this is a stage all 2 year olds go through… I just don’t think I was ready.
I love you Amelia! We will have a great weekend, I just know it.
Baby Momma